Clare Boucher of the electronic music project Grimes ranted some thoughts on her tumblr, many of which are thoughts that I've had myself. Her comments pinpoint what I think a lot of women musicians deal with -- condescension from male musicians, concerns about safety, objectification, etc.
"i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized
i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction
i dont want to live in a world where im gonna have to start employing body guards because this kind of behavior is so commonplace and accepted and I’m pissed that when I express concern over my own safety it’s often ignored until people see firsthand what happens and then they apologize for not taking me seriously after the fact…
im tired of being considered vapid for liking pop music or caring about fashion as if these things inherently lack substance or as if the things i enjoy somehow make me a lesser person."
"I’m tired of men who aren’t professional or even accomplished musicians continually offering to ‘help me out’ (without being asked), as if i did this by accident and i’m gonna flounder without them. or as if the fact that I’m a woman makes me incapable of using technology. I have never seen this kind of thing happen to any of my male peers "The last quote really resonates with me the most. As a musician, I can say I've had this same exact experience, some guy saying he wants to "help" me with my music. Unless you're an established producer or something, then wtf are you talking about bros? If a guy has respect for me as a musician, he'll suggest a collaboration ("let's work on something together"), not offer to "help" me. If neither of us is established, then why wouldn't he see me as someone who could help him?
I think part of it is simply that as a society we are trained to see men as the authority on these kinds of things. I can't imagine ever approaching any of my male OR female musician friends and offering to "help them with their music," unless they were just learning and starting out. And if they are, then I'm all about helping someone learn.
That's all I have for now. Check out Grimes: